Tuesday, December 9, 2008

I had a great night last night!

So I have been feeling really down the past couple of days because of the IUI cycle and the fact that it didn't work this time. Last night was my monthly homebirth support group meeting and I wasn't sure that I was really up to going. I mean, it is hard to be around pregnant women and brand new babies. But I decided that I really did want to go. It was the "Meet a midwife" day and I was super excited to see my "future" midwife. I had met her a couple of times before during the meetings and I just love her. Out of all the midwives there, we had such a great connection and I instantly felt close to her.

Anyway, so last night we had a really great group and a nice dynamic. We were able to talk about homebirthing and why we were choosing that path. The midwives answered all sorts of questions and really did a great job of presenting their practices to the group. "My" midwife was really sweet, answered all the questions that I had, and made me so excited to have our next baby.

So eventually, the topic changed from our future birth wishes to our birthing past. Several of us had really traumatic experiences in the hospital setting. It was so nice to be able to talk about Nathan's birth in a safe place and really process through what happened to me. By the end of it, we were all crying. I just really finally started to grieve for what was lost in Nathan's birth. I lost my confidence as a mother and a woman that day, and it was so helpful to be able to talk about that. No one said "but the most important thing is a healthy baby." I often hear that when I talk about Nathan's birth. And while the health of the baby is so important, my mental and physical health is also very important too.

My midwife came over and gave me a big hug. She said that I have something great in store for me. She asked me to go ahead and set up a pre-conception appointment so that we could get to know each other better and so that I could meet the other midwife in her practice. I just really love her. She is so calm and such a bright presence. I am just really looking forward to having our next baby at home. I just can't wait!

Someday soon, I will post Nathan's birth story here. It is long and drawn out and really emotional for me. Maybe I will be ready to share it with the world soon.


Brooke Kiel said...

Did AF show up? This cycle definitely did not work?

Mandie said...

Probably tomorrow. Although I know that this cycle did not work. I am having my normal PMS symptoms and I know my body pretty well. :( It sucks.

Brooke Kiel said...

Oh. :( :(

Jamie said...

I am so so happy for you!!! That sounds wonderful!! The 'healthy baby' line is so very frustrating to me. Honor and mourn your experience... and get ready for something great as your midwife said!

Please Press Pause said...

So awesome! I feel that way when I leave a LLL meeting. My birth was not at all what I wanted to expected, but it is so nice to know that by breastfeeding I am able to fill some of the hurt I feel about it. LLL helps reinforce the good that has come and that is so uplifting to me. So exciting about your midwife too - birthing centers are so rad.

Erin said...

I hate that line too. Especially the implication that if the interventions hadn't taken place you wouldn't have had a healthy baby.