tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post6484994499759748044..comments2023-05-12T11:47:05.605-04:00Comments on So this is love...: It is time.Mandiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06257521342551609684noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-52674956568748775662010-05-01T13:17:30.300-04:002010-05-01T13:17:30.300-04:00Amazing post! I couldn't agree with you more! ...Amazing post! I couldn't agree with you more! I come from a family where my brothers were intact and I always new my sons would be as well but worried about the fight I would have with my husband. Little did I know his best friend lives every day with a botched circumcision and he was all for leaving out dear son intact. Our son is only 3 1/3yo so I don't know how he feels about our decision but am hopeful he will be thankful. I have helped 1 friend so far make the decision after circing her first 2 boys to leave the 3rd intact and she if very grateful, she didn't realize it was even a choice. I hope your post opens peoples eyes to the fact that it is a choice and just because you have done one son you don't have to be all or nothing.<br />Blessing,<br />KatieNatural as can behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10276994607081535918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-85486995955791129032008-09-07T11:48:00.000-04:002008-09-07T11:48:00.000-04:00Your story and mine are so much the same. Ignoring...Your story and mine are so much the same. Ignoring the mama gut instinct, regretting it immediately and then finding out later (once I had internet access). My first boy is circ'd but my second is intact. When we know better, we do better and that's what I repeat to myself daily.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-39989558080795091052008-08-19T10:52:00.000-04:002008-08-19T10:52:00.000-04:00My midwife sent me some information about circumci...My midwife sent me some information about circumcision, and it said that the foreskins are actually being sold!<BR/><BR/>That is so sick that they are profiting off of this!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03151867752232905481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-71712207118776795012008-08-05T17:05:00.000-04:002008-08-05T17:05:00.000-04:00Thank you all for the thoughtful comments. The lo...Thank you all for the thoughtful comments. The love and support is amazing! Thanks again to each and every one of you and bless you all for keeping up the fight against circumcision.Mandiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06257521342551609684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-85823509575851464922008-08-04T19:48:00.000-04:002008-08-04T19:48:00.000-04:00I am so glad you wrote this in-depth post! I hope ...I am so glad you wrote this in-depth post! I hope people will read it and perhaps think twice about the decision to circumcise. My mother has told me multiple time how much she regretted having my younger brother circumcised and because of her experience, I knew I would never chose to circumcise my own son. My beautiful boy was born in Jan of 2007 and yes, he is intact. :)Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11107631680842184147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-16719922655870724372008-08-04T17:43:00.000-04:002008-08-04T17:43:00.000-04:00It's totally bizarre that Americans and to a lesse...It's totally bizarre that Americans and to a lesser extent, some Canadians, ever started genital mutilation in the first place. <BR/><BR/>In 1980, the Australian academy of pediatrics learned the errors of their way and stopped recommending circumcision in 1980, and the circ rate almost immediately plunged. It started dropping slowly in Canada and even slower in the U.S., but the tide TRULY is turning! ONLY 10% of Canadian boys are circumcised and 53% of American boys are, and the rate is ever dropping!<BR/><BR/>While I don't unfortunately expect circumcision to be stopped in Middle Eastern countries (Israel, Iraq, Iran, Turkey) despite the stellar education from groups like JewsAgainstCircumcision and MuslimsAgainstCircumcision, hopefully it can lowered there and *totally* eliminated in the U.S. and Canada so there's the maximum amount of males enjoying the maximum amount of sexual sensitivity w/ their partners. :-)<BR/><BR/>http://community.livejournal.com/uncut/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-48387514536115362872008-08-04T14:56:00.000-04:002008-08-04T14:56:00.000-04:00Thanks for posting this on your blog. Great infor...Thanks for posting this on your blog. Great information!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-12715317247088724042008-08-04T12:50:00.000-04:002008-08-04T12:50:00.000-04:00Thanks for sharing. Of course males should get to...Thanks for sharing. Of course males should get to decide for themselves. Foreskin feels REALLY good. <BR/><BR/>-RonTLC Tuggerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16239396308939812371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-21415430569405432902008-08-02T23:39:00.000-04:002008-08-02T23:39:00.000-04:00Good for you for sharing your story!! Thank you. I...Good for you for sharing your story!! Thank you. I so sorry to hear you learned the truth about circumcision when it was too late for your son. You are a good mother and you can only do the best you can. (((HUGS)))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-8660121986167821542008-08-02T20:26:00.000-04:002008-08-02T20:26:00.000-04:00I nearly cried reading this. If only more mothers...I nearly cried reading this. If only more mothers were like you then I think this practice would die out. I admire your courage.furkanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15976551385719695812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-67209529036099076502008-08-02T15:10:00.000-04:002008-08-02T15:10:00.000-04:00One thing I have tried to do in my interactions wi...One thing I have tried to do in my interactions with friends is accept that they believe there are benefits to circumcision. You did not spend time refuting those benefits. And I have decided that I will not take that approach either. Because even if all the debatable benefits of circumcision are true, it still does not warrant such a serious procedure. Physicians normally reserve amputations as a last resort-when a body part is gangrenous or frost-bitten. Yet this procedure is done in infants who have perfectly healthy foreskins!<BR/><BR/>The incidents of UTIs in boys and penile cancer are just as low as the complication rate of circumcision so, prophylactilly, it gains nothing. From a public health perspective, the CDC would not recommend a vaccine with that type of risk/benefit profile.<BR/><BR/>And as for HIV prevention, we have a better tool for intervention which is not invasive and irreversible-condoms and safe sex.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-25993635584017463952008-08-02T14:54:00.000-04:002008-08-02T14:54:00.000-04:00I feel such incredulous shock at the practice of i...I feel such incredulous shock at the practice of infant circumcision in this country that I find it difficult to speak calmly about it. I get worked up and angry so quickly. I just want to shake people and tell them to snap out of it. The illogic of it is astounding to me. So I don't speak about it with my friends and family. I commend you for being able to do it even though it perhaps easier to do in this blog than in real life.<BR/><BR/>One thAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-55601527449561248412008-08-02T12:43:00.000-04:002008-08-02T12:43:00.000-04:00Thank you for this post! My mother circumcised my ...Thank you for this post! My mother circumcised my brothers out of ignorance and one of my best friends circumcised her sons out of ignorance (and now-ex-husband-pressure) as well. <BR/><BR/>It is for mothers like them and like you that I talk to pregnant women about circumcision. Mothers who wish they'd made a more informed decision because it would have been a different decision.<BR/><BR/>My husband is intact and my FIL is circumcised. "Looking alike" was never an issue. I'm certain that your beautiful son will understand that you're human and make mistakes. I'm certain that he will appreciate the information about restoration and the fact that you love him enough to admit when you messed up instead of allowing him to continue the cycle if/when he has sons. <BR/><BR/>We can't know everything, we all make mistakes. Admitting that you've made a mistake takes so much courage and humility. Kudos to you!<BR/><BR/>What a lucky son you have to have a wonderful, loving mother like you!<BR/><BR/>~B.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-85942742345029857042008-08-02T09:45:00.000-04:002008-08-02T09:45:00.000-04:00What a brave and heartwrenching story. I am so so...What a brave and heartwrenching story. I am so sorry you didn't have the information to save your son, husband and yourself from this cruel prractice.<BR/><BR/>I was lucky to find Mothering before I had my sons. If not for the great information found there and elsewhere, my story very well could have mirrored yours.<BR/><BR/>I am glad you can see though all of the myths and misconceptions about circumcision now. Boys are born how they are for a good reason and now you have the power to save your future sons, as well as many others I'm sure by telling your story.<BR/><BR/>Thank-you, Thank-you, Thank-you.<BR/><BR/>TaraAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-61735002196597258912008-08-02T09:29:00.000-04:002008-08-02T09:29:00.000-04:00you are very brave for putting all this info out t...you are very brave for putting all this info out there. <BR/><BR/>we researched as well & were kinda on the fence about it even right after our son's birth in the hospital (i wasn't but SO was, i really-really didn't want to do it) our midwife came in a few times asking if & when. finally she asked if the reason why we were thinking about doing it is for social reasons, him being made fun of, etc. we said yes. she said don't do it for that reason & went on to explain that is is becoming less popular, that people are becoming hip to the fact that it is an unnatural & useless procedure. <BR/><BR/>we are living & i am from a small town where circing is normal & quite frankly parents don't even THINK about it, like they have NO idea what is being done to their sons, etc, they are sheep. people need to be informed, my mom is ill because no one ever told her otherwise. <BR/><BR/>i am so glad you are planting seeds. you & your husband are wonderful parents, don't be so hard on yourselves. your son will understand & be thankful that he has compassionate parents, & he will stop the cycle by not circing his son, you will educate him.<BR/><BR/>i also, like the pp, have been wanting to write a blog post about circing because some of our family has been so repulsed by our decision to not do so that it's disheartening.<BR/><BR/>sorry this got long-winded, just know that you are not alone. hugs mama, lots.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01553406074853241666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-86233965157994452112008-08-02T05:41:00.000-04:002008-08-02T05:41:00.000-04:00I'm sorry you and your son had to go through this!...I'm sorry you and your son had to go through this! As a European I'm lucky not to have had to consider circumcision and I have two intact sons. I was shocked to learn what many newborns go through in America, and I'm horrified to think what it must be like for mothers like you to find out the truth after it's too late! You are very brave, it is mothers like you that will one day put an end to all this unnecessary pain.Hildehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14121869793510641904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-14952195305198476412008-08-01T21:33:00.000-04:002008-08-01T21:33:00.000-04:00Thanks for posting. It will take a long time to ch...Thanks for posting. It will take a long time to change societal norms, but I think we can do it. It's so unethical to do this to unconsenting children. At least now you know, and can do better and help spread the word this way.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18256436022215262245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-75570264068146391392008-08-01T16:19:00.000-04:002008-08-01T16:19:00.000-04:00Thanks for sharing this.Nobody, nobody should have...Thanks for sharing this.<BR/><BR/>Nobody, nobody should have to go through a circumcision they don't need and never (or couldn't) ask for.<BR/><BR/>That this goes on the United States shows there is something very wrong with the medical system, as though children were property. Doctors need to shape up and uphold the ideals of their profession. But they won't (not all of them, anyway) until they are forced to.<BR/><BR/>One consolation you can give your son, down the road, is that he has the option to hold the doctor (and hospital) legally accountable. Sadly, it's this growing liability that is the only thing likely to get them to stop.<BR/><BR/>Keep spreading the word. We will gain genital integrity rights everyone in this country.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-54891857506964358732008-08-01T14:03:00.000-04:002008-08-01T14:03:00.000-04:00Oh mama... I am near tears after reading this post...Oh mama... I am near tears after reading this post. I could have written it myself. My son (also Nathan) is also circumcised, and the regret has kept me up at night. I can't believe I let it happen. <BR/><BR/>I have a blog too and I've sat down to make a similar post many times, but I can't quite bring myself to do it yet. It's still so painful to even think about what a horrible thing I did.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for posting this. You are not the only one <3 Thank you for speaking the truth, even though it hurts.<BR/><BR/>All the best to you & yours.<BR/>Amanda (another Nathan's mama)Amanda Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11803005997536349863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-71679517159327426412008-08-01T13:05:00.000-04:002008-08-01T13:05:00.000-04:00Thank you for sharing your story. I cannot imagin...Thank you for sharing your story. I cannot imagine how painful it must be to learn about the evils of circumcision after it was done to your baby. You are so brave. I am so lucky I learned about circumcision before my baby was born. The more people like you who speak out, the more happy stories like mine there will be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-63270373159570987872008-08-01T12:26:00.000-04:002008-08-01T12:26:00.000-04:00I am truly sorry for all that you and your son wen...I am truly sorry for all that you and your son went through. <BR/><BR/>The very sad thing about circumcision is that NOBODY would do it if they REALLY knew what it was all about. But most people just don't want to know...<BR/><BR/>I am very thankful that my son is intact. If my Dh was circed and wanted him done, he would have been. After all, it's no big deal right......I am so happy I know better now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-30627177682995211012008-08-01T11:49:00.000-04:002008-08-01T11:49:00.000-04:00You sound like a wonderful mama. I think you're ve...You sound like a wonderful mama. I think you're very brave to share your story. My own mother had my first brother circed and also regretted it immensely. My Dad, like your husband, had a lot of common sense and came around to her side easily. They agreed not to do it again and left my younger brother intact. He has never had any issues and is in his 20's. <BR/><BR/>As mothers we all do the best we can, sometimes we have instincts and we ignore them, it happens to all of us. I hope you find peace and I can tell by the way that you write how much love you have for your son.clarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765926746058915959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-36935933367616598242008-08-01T11:22:00.000-04:002008-08-01T11:22:00.000-04:00ITA...my son is intact. I am grateful that I was e...ITA...my son is intact. I am grateful that I was educated enough on the subject to know that circumcision is unnecessary and harmful before he was born. He has always been very laid back and calm and the first few days of his life was wonderfully blissful as he adjusted to life in his perfect, whole, body outside the womb.Karmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10037044927890957306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5638673110776041228.post-81628735180025458962008-08-01T11:15:00.000-04:002008-08-01T11:15:00.000-04:00So many people circumcise one son, and close their...So many people circumcise one son, and close their minds to any information after that. I applaud and respect you for opening your mind and your heart to the possibilty that you might have made a mistake in circumcising your son.<BR/><BR/>My 14-yr-old twin sons are intact, and from the time they learned about circumcision (at age 8) they have been grateful that they still have their foreskins.<BR/><BR/>AnnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com