and judgment will get you nowhere. You know, I used to think that I had this parenting thing all figured out. I would do this and this and NOT do this and I would be perfect and everyone else was doing it WRONG. I was a fool.
There honestly is no right way to do this. That has hit me twice this week. Once when I was reading a friend's blog and she was remarking on how people had judged her for her parenting. I panicked thinking that she had felt some sort of judgment from me because we had made different choices in the past. Thankfully all was well and she was commenting about something else entirely. But that honestly had me evaluting my interactions with other mothers. Do I come off as judgmental? I am a very opinionated person obviously. I have a passion for things and they can take over my thinking. But I do not want to come off that way. Not in the least.
And two, someone actually told me that I am selfish for weaning my twins. Are you fucking kidding me?! I posted on a Breastfeeding friendly Facebook page. The question was "What are your current breastfeeding goals?" I remarked about how I was in the process of weaning the babies. I had two more sessions to drop and hoped to be done by 18 months. Someone actually sent me a private message saying that I needed to let the twins decide when they wanted to "self-wean". I was shocked and outraged.
You know what?! There is no right way to do this. Not in the least bit. I say that as long as you are the best parent that you can be and your child is safe, warm, and fed then you are doing a DAMN GOOD JOB. Screw everyone else that casts their judgment upon you. This is ridiculous. If you want to breastfeed, then you should, and I hope that you can find the information and support you need. If you don't or can't, then you know what, it will be ok. My breastfeeding posts may have come off a little strong in the past. I regret that. It took having twins and realizing how really hard this breastfeeding thing really is.
So there is my little rant and self-realization for the day. If I have said or posted anything on this page that has made you feel judged in your parenting: I'm sincerely sorry.
And to the bitch that sent me that private message: you suck.